Contraception Education: Downloads

Sex without penetration by a partner´s penis can be very satisfying, and is without the risk of pregnancy, provided that any semen remains well away from the partner´s genitals.

Direct but gentle stimulation by stroking the woman´s clitoris with fingers is for many women more intensely pleasurable than penetration. Partners often become aroused by having finger(s) inserted into vagina/anus. Mutual masturbation (through touching each other´s genitals) also gives couples the opportunity to learn about what gives the most pleasure and how, and how to control and prolong the excitement. This is a time for intimate communication because knowing how to express your needs, and decline unwanted or less enjoyable things is so important in the making of a successful relationship.

If either partner would like to use finger or hand protection for sex play, then latex finger cots and latex gloves can provide protection against infections than can be transmitted via skin to skin contact, for example herpes (cold sores) warts, bacterial infections and infestations with mites that burrow under the skin (scabies).

If a couple has no other sexual partners, non-penetrative sex, including masturbation, is also low risk in terms of infection. But if either partner has ever had herpes (cold sores), or is at risk of having an infection which could be passed on by skin to skin contact, a barrier between hands and genitals makes the transmission of infection much less likely.

If either partner is HIV positive, then barriers will be needed if either partner has an open wound on either genitals or hands if there is any risk of partner´s body fluids coming into contact.

Finger cots and latex gloves can all be purchased at pharmacies, over the internet or by mail order from Contraception Education, and should be used with a water based lubricant to prevent any discomfort or friction.

As with male and female condoms care is still needed to prevent damage to the barriers - finger nails, sharp jewellery. Only water based lubricants should be used with latex rubber products to prevent their weakening. (Avoid body oils, cosmetic creams and some pharaceutical products)

REMEMBER any sexual activity is only OK if you want to do it, and are fully aware of all the consequences. Nobody should ever do anything that doesn´t feel absolutely right, or that you don´t understand. Good relationships are built on trust and mutual respect, so don´t be afraid to ask for what you want, but respect the views and feelings of your partner if they don´t agree with you.

Just as an exercise... Think of something you do not want to try.... now practise all the direct and simple ways you know to say no. Remember it´s ALWAYS about choice. It is ALWAYS ok to decline anything which does not feel right for both partners. Communicate! The more you talk with the people you trust, the more you will feel comfortable asking for what you want, and declining what you don´t.

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